{"id":90,"date":"2012-05-01T12:50:10","date_gmt":"2012-05-01T17:50:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.word-crafter.com\/lara\/?p=90"},"modified":"2012-07-30T12:54:24","modified_gmt":"2012-07-30T17:54:24","slug":"sharing-mothers-day-an-obligation-or-celebration","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/larakrupicka.com\/staging\/6885\/2012\/05\/01\/sharing-mothers-day-an-obligation-or-celebration\/","title":{"rendered":"Sharing Mother\u2019s Day \u2013 An Obligation or Celebration?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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<\/strong>For moms, Mother\u2019s Day can be laden with expectation. We expect to be pampered and coddled \u2013 breakfast in bed, a trip to the spa, dinner at a fancy restaurant. But what we don\u2019t expect is to be lost in all the craziness of family obligations. Yet for some women with family living nearby (or within a few hours\u2019 drive), or for moms with blended families, Mother\u2019s Day can become anything but a day of pampering.<\/p>\n

If this is you and you\u2019re already dreading the second Sunday in May, let me give you a few tips that can help you survive (and possibly find celebration):<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Recognize your expectations.<\/strong> If every year your family follows the same disappointing script, recognize what\u2019s not working about it for you. If you\u2019re hoping for breakfast in bed, but that never happens because your mother-in-law insists on a family brunch, note what it is that you miss. Maybe it\u2019s sleeping in. Or maybe it\u2019s alone time snuggled in bed with your kids. Take time to parse out the underlying needs or emotions.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Share your desires. <\/strong>Perhaps your husband would be willing to initiate changes on your behalf but he doesn\u2019t know what you want. Tell him. Give him the opportunity to please you.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Reframe your concept of Mother\u2019s Day.<\/strong> Maybe your family won\u2019t budge. Sometimes tradition is tradition and there\u2019s no changing. Instead of thinking of what you wish Mother\u2019s Day would be, accept it for what it is \u2013 a day to honor the generation of mothers ahead of you, or a day for your stepkids to honor their mom.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Grieve the loss.<\/strong> If you know you\u2019ll never get the Mother\u2019s Day you crave, acknowledge your sadness. Mourn for what you\u2019re missing. Mourn and then move on.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Start your own tradition. <\/strong>So Mother\u2019s Day isn\u2019t about you. How about asking your husband and children to honor you on a different day. Call it \u201cMom\u2019s Day\u201d and tell them how you\u2019d like to celebrate. Then put that day on the calendar. Ask your kids to intentionally hold back any gifts or celebration for you on the second Sunday in May so that special your day gets it all.<\/p>\n

Observing special days doesn\u2019t always happen perfectly. But taking the opportunity in advance to decide how we\u2019re going to view the day can go a long way to improving our experience. If you\u2019re a mom faced with recognizing someone else\u2019s Mother\u2019s Day instead of your own, think about what you\u2019ll do to make this year different. You may find the result to be something worth celebrating!<\/p>\n

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For moms, Mother\u2019s Day can be laden with expectation. We expect to be pampered and coddled \u2013 breakfast in bed, a trip to the spa, dinner at a fancy restaurant. But what we don\u2019t expect is to be lost in all the craziness of family obligations. Yet for some women with family living nearby (or…<\/p>\n

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