{"id":2298,"date":"2016-02-10T12:28:30","date_gmt":"2016-02-10T18:28:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/larakrupicka.com\/?p=2298"},"modified":"2016-02-10T12:28:30","modified_gmt":"2016-02-10T18:28:30","slug":"the-appeal-of-just-once","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/larakrupicka.com\/staging\/6885\/2016\/02\/10\/the-appeal-of-just-once\/","title":{"rendered":"The Appeal of ‘Just Once’"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"The<\/a>A handful of years ago, when my daughters were preschool- and elementary-aged, I surprised them with a Valentine\u2019s Tea. I set out my china, made tiny cucumber sandwiches cut in the shape of hearts, baked cookies, and brewed up some hot tea. When they arrived home at the end of the school day, instead of after school snacks, we sat in the living room and enjoyed afternoon tea.<\/p>\n

They drank daintily, holding pinkies high in the air, sipping gingerly. They munched on sandwiches and chattered about their school day, being careful to place their teacups on saucers and wiped at their mouths with the cloth napkins I\u2019d set out.<\/p>\n

It didn\u2019t take a lot for me to put on this special holiday tea for them. A bit of baking and sandwich making. It was a pure delight to me, something I\u2019d been wanting to do with my girls since the first of them was born. And the effect was marvelous. They ate it up, literally and figuratively. I\u2019d loved them by spoiling them with something different that Valentine\u2019s Day.<\/p>\n

We haven\u2019t had a Valentine\u2019s Tea since then. My girls still talk about it – it is probably one of their most memorable Valentine\u2019s celebrations. And that actually is the point of it. It\u2019s memorable because it happened just once. I had wanted to do it for them. I did it. We enjoyed it. And now it is a fond memory.<\/p>\n

As Valentine\u2019s Day approaches this year, I see where more moms could use a \u201cjust once\u201d bucket list approach to treating their kids to something special. Because many of us get worked up about creating a great experience that we will repeat year after year. Which makes no Valentine\u2019s celebration memorable. And it wears us out.<\/p>\n

Many of us get worked up about creating a great experience that we will repeat year after year. Which makes no Valentine\u2019s memorable. – Tweet This<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

So as you contemplate what you will do to love on your children this February 14th<\/sup>, consider this: what would you do if it was only \u201cjust once\u201d? Is there a special way of celebrating you have wanted to do for a while, but haven\u2019t (like my Valentine\u2019s Tea)? Then ask yourself whether this is the year for it or not. Recognize that your children do not know about all the wonderful ideas you have that you may not execute. If you don\u2019t have any \u201cjust once\u201d Valentine ideas, then give yourself a break. Going overboard does not make you any more loving, nor will your children feel any less loved if you do not.<\/p>\n

And if last year you made a terrific display of affection for your kids, release yourself from the need for a repeat performance. Let it stand on its own and relish the memory. Relax and stop beating yourself up over what you don\u2019t do. Show yourself some love this Valentine\u2019s. Even if it\u2019s just once.<\/p>\n

Ever done something amazing for your kids one time, never to repeat it? Or have you been wanting to do something special for them “just once,” but haven’t yet? Share your story in the comments.<\/em><\/p>\n

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A handful of years ago, when my daughters were preschool- and elementary-aged, I surprised them with a Valentine\u2019s Tea. I set out my china, made tiny cucumber sandwiches cut in the shape of hearts, baked cookies, and brewed up some hot tea. When they arrived home at the end of the school day, instead of…<\/p>\n

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